Relationship Expert, John Gray share's these tips about how to avoid fights in your relationship:
8 mistakes MEN make in an argument
1. Aggressive tone or loud voice
Men can care so much about being right that they don't realize that they often sound threatening and overwhelming.
2. Condescending comments
Phrases like, "Don't worry about it." or "It's not a big deal." are big mistakes because it does not acknowledge her feelings.
3. Interrupting her with arguments that invalidate her feelings or correct her observations
A typical comment would be "You shouldn't feel that way." Instead of taking time to reflect and saying something like, "I understand you think that..."
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According to John Gottman from his 40 years of research with couples, creating a “Climate of Trust” is key to satisfying & long lasting relationships.
We all need help with this, however, since we only speak our “hormonal/gender specific language”, because that’s what comes most natural to us.
The beginning of creating a “Climate of Trust” is understanding the differences that create conflict. It’s through this understanding we can have compassion, acceptance and openness to learn skills on how to listen & communicate across the hormonal/gender differences so we can have a “Climate of Trust” in which we and our relationships can flourish! 🙂
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Angelina is a Basketball/Pencil, and Brad is a Football/Pen. Their Inner Style is extreme.Angelina has a higher tolerance for stress, and likes to keep things "stimulating"! Hang in there Brad....I'm sure you feel it's well worth the work! :)Relationship Science: What we have in common is far more likely to sustain long-term and meaningful relationships than what is different about us. Understanding our visible and invisible differences is a key to diminishing or eliminating misunderstandings. More understanding, less conflict, more love! 😀
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