Relationship Tip from John Gray

January 27, 2016
When a man simply listens and accepts a woman’s feelings instead of objecting to them or trying to convince her to feel another way, she feels loved by him. He is validating her feelings and confirming her right to feel the way she does.
It’s important to remember that he doesn’t need to have the same point of view to validate her feelings or point of view. When a man learns how to validate a woman’s feelings – even when he disagrees with those feelings – he is more likely to receive the approval that he primarily needs…
Every man wants to be his woman’s hero and gain her approval. A woman’s approving attitude looks for the good reasons behind what he does and conveys a feeling of satisfaction with him.
However, giving approval to a man doesn’t mean you agree with him. Your approval simply helps him feel understood and makes it easier for him to validate your feelings in return.
The balancing of these primary needs for men and women helps to create a lasting and loving relationship.