Neurogentic research shows that male and female brains are wired differently, which validates and sheds light on a lot of the conflict we can have in relating with the opposite sex.
My relationship advice is to understand the different preferences our brains have us wired for.
By understanding these differences we can have acceptance and hopefully a sense of humor, when we expect the opposite sex to value or prefer things in the same way we would.
When it’s stated below that “male brains prefer”, they mean people who have more testosterone in their bodies than estrogen. (Which is about 80% men)
When it’s stated below that “female brains prefer”, they mean people who have more estrogen in their bodies than testosterone. (Which is about 80% female)
We all have a mix of estrogen and testosterone in our bodies, so we may relate to some preferences of the opposite sex, but if we fall in the 80% we are probably relating more to our gender specific preferences.
The following “preferences”, I feel, are equal or synonymous to our “values”, so I’m writing it as “prefer/value”.
Preferences list was assembled from Walter Vom Saal’s research.
Male brains prefer/value: things & power/status
- Female brains prefer/value: people & relations
Male: facts, reason, rules, logic
- Female: feelings, emotions, senses, meaning
Male: competing, achieving, winning
- Female: harmony & sharing
Male: analyzing, figuring things out
- Female: intuiting, “knowing/sensing” (less interested in logic)
Male: being assertive, aggressive, controlling
- Female: cooperation & mutuality
Male: intellectual understanding
- Female: empathizing
Female: love & intimacy
Male: action “doing”
- Female: being & closeness
Male: organizing & achieving
- Female brains prefer/value: socializing (what’s going on between so & so etc.)
Understanding creates less conflict…..more love!
For a consultation to see how I may be able to help you with understanding differences, one on one or with your partner, contact me.
I hope this is useful relationship advice for you. 🙂