Frustrated in relationship?

May 23, 2014

There is a post going around on Facebook, called “An Open Letter To Men From Sexy Consciously Awake Women”.
I think the woman who wrote it and the many who share it, have a deep desire to be loved, adored & appreciated. What they clearly don’t know yet is the differences between the “masculine & the feminine” person, and how to get their needs met by understanding these important differences.

Generally, and not the rule, the “masculine” person is male and the “feminine” person is the female. What makes a masculine person masculine is the amount of testosterone they have in their body, and what makes the feminine person feminine is the amount of estrogen they have in their body.

A VERY important thing to note: Research shows, the more testosterone a person has, the less in touch with
the “emotional part of the brain”, because the testosterone cuts them off from that part of the brain; meaning the less able they are to connect with and communicate about emotions.
The more estrogen a person has, the more in touch with the “emotional part of the brain”, because estrogen connects them to that part of the brain; meaning they are more able they are to connect with and communicate about emotions.

In general, brain research shows, the masculine person is more connected to the “thinking/rational part of the brain” and the feminine person is more connected to the “emotional/ feeling part of the brain”.

A masculine person can “act” more feminine, as needed at times, but it doesn’t come naturally. A feminine person can “act” more masculine, as needed at times, but it doesn’t come naturally. So loving appreciation and understanding for the effort is important to create a healthy relationship.

If you are a feminine person & you want a partner who is an “emotional equal” or who can “meet you emotionally” or even understand your emotionality, then they are going to have be more feminine, or an older man who has gone through andropause (like menopause in women) when they lose a lot of their testosterone.  So, if you are a feminine person & you want to be with a masculine person, you will have to get your “emotional needs” met either with other feminine people, such as girlfriends or the higher estrogen men friends, and/or learn how to communicate with the masculine people in your life so you can be heard and feel a more intimate connection to them for a healthier happier relationship.

With understanding, compassion, patience and hopefully a sense of humor about the challenge of understanding and working with the differences, we can have very fulfilling happy relationships!

For more information on how to understand the differences that can create conflict and how to get your needs met…. Contact me 🙂