“Creating positive relationships begins with ourselves. What we believe, what we see, and what we experience depends directly on the thoughts we have in our minds.”
In the book ‘Love is the Answer’ by Jamplosky and Cirincione, they teach a “psychological-spiritual” approach called Attitudinal Healing, which is a process of letting go of the fearful, guilty, angry, negative thoughts that so many of us carry around in our minds. It is based on the premise that it is not other people or circumstances that cause us to be upset, but rather our own thoughts and attitudes about those people and circumstances that cause us distress.
In attitudinal Healing, health is defined as “inner peace” and healing as “letting go of fear.” It is a way of correcting our own misperceptions. Perhaps the most valuable gift we’ve been given is the freedom to choose and to decide upon our own thoughts.
In his book he talks about two ways of looking at the world and our relationships. One is through the eyes of ego (fear) and the other is through the eyes of love. We can always choose whether we are going to listen to the voice of the ego or the voice of love. We create positive relationships only when we listen to the voice of love.”
Taken from the book “Love is the Answer” by Gerald G. Jamplowsky, M.D. and Diane V. Cirincione
Another great book of Jamplowsky’s is “Love is letting go of Fear”.
Wishing you love and peace, within yourselves and in your relationships……Patty
To have more peace and love in any relationship, it’s important that men and women understand that we think, feel and communicate differently.
We can also have ”invisible differences”, that are at the core of most of the conflicts that happen in relationships. I show people these invisible differences using The Compatikey Relationship Mapping System®.
Whether you are single looking to date more successfully or have conflict in any relationship these understandings will impact all areas of your life in an extraordinary way!
I’ve been on a mission to understand, accept, and appreciate these differences in my own relationships as well as helping others do the same, in order to have less conflict which means more love and peace in their lives.
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In the blog below, you will see Celebrity Relationships analyzed using the Compatikey Relationship Mapping System®.
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I think this picture sums up a lot of their relationship….but I won’t disclose all of my thoughts on this right now.
I will tell you about the hidden ingredients, looking thru the lens of Compatikey, that made this relationship work and where the challenges lie. Obviously, there were more challenges than not, but it’s also very obvious in their Compatikey Relationship Map.
Maria is a ‘Football’ Relationship Style and she’s the ’Pencil’ Plan Style. Arnold is the ‘Basketball’ Relationship Style and the ‘Pen’ plan style. Opposites can work much better, if they know what they are working with, so they don’t expect the other to do relationship or plan their day’s in the same manner. Over time, the unawareness of these differences can be extremly challenging for both parties.
What worked for awhile was their chemistry….which was part of the glue of this relationship, which can be for better or worse. When the chemistry is strong yet it’s with the opposite Relationship and Plan Style, it can feel like a curse.
I wish them, especially Maria, ease and love thru this challenging time.
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These two have what I call the “glue of a relationship”, which is an intense level 3 chemistry and an insync movement chemistry. When a couple has this kind of chemistry, you can see and feel it…and I can show you it on their Compatikey Relationship Map!
As I said back in July (see blog post) about this couple:
“I think this one has the potential for an enjoyable long term relationship!”
Looking thru the lens of Compatikey, they have a lot of hidden ingredients in common. They have the same Relationship Style (Basketball) and Plan Style (Pen) Their Chemistry is the same (level 1) and their movement chemistry is “in sync”. Plus their Inner Style is “smooth to moderatley mixed” giving them a nice friendship on top of everything else they’ve got going on here.”
They are still going strong….and now they are expecting a baby! Blessings you two!
I thought I was going to find what I found on the “hidden ingredients”, using the Compatikey Relationship Mapping System, with these two. They both have the same Relationship and Plan Style (both Basketball/Pencils) and their “Movement Chemistry” is “in sync”. I feel this is the main reason why this movie works so well. Great Casting!
I think she’s going to innocently try to make him jump through hoops throughout this relationship, and he’ll do it!
In terms of Compatikey, Ryan is the Basketball Relationship Style with a Pencil Plan Style. Julianne is the Football Relationship Style with the Pen Plan Style.
They have a “magnet” in their chemistry, and their movement chemistry is passionate and “In sync”. Their Inner Style is “Extreme”.
I have found that Football/Pen women tend to run the relationship when the man is a Basketball/Pencil. She generally has high expectations, and since this Basketball man is very attracted to her, he will do as much as he can to make it work.
Three of the main “hidden” reasons, looking through the lens of Compatikey is their “Inner Style” is smooth and easy and their “movement chemistry” is easy/friendly. They also have a magnetic connection in their “chemistry”.
These two have the opposite Relationship and Plan Style, but with the other key things in a place of smooth and easy, this makes the differences less important, and probably helpful for this friendship.
To have more peace and love in any relationship, it’s important that men and women understand that we think, feel and communicate differently.
I think she’s going to innocently try to make him jump through hoops throughout this relationship, and he’ll do it!
No surprise!