It was no secret that Whitney Houston and Bobby Brown had a very intense relationship filled with conflict. No surprise, looking at their relationship through the lens of The Compatikey Relationship Mapping System, we can see why.
They were opposite Relationship Styles. Whitney was a Football Relationship Style, and Bobby was the Basketball Relationship Style.
Meaning Whitney liked stability and ease in relationship and Bobby liked stimulation and a lot going on in relationship.
Their physical chemistry was out of balance. She had a “magnetic” attraction to him and he had a “neutral” attraction to her, and their movement chemistry, was “clumsy”.
Their heart chemistry was the strongest and equal to each other. That’s was the glue of that relationship, but it was also their curse, because of the opposites everywhere else, and they had no tangible understanding of this or how to work with it.
Without the understanding of these “hidden” differences, and how to manage it, it’s enough to drive two people crazy, especially Whitney, since she was the Football Relationship style with the magnetic attraction to Bobby.
A source told people magazine “There really wasn’t a final straw. They’re just two people who realized they wanted different things in life and were headed in different directions.” Which is what can happen when two people have different ‘Relationship Styles’ and their “Inner Style” is ‘Heavily Mixed”, as seen, looking thru the lens of Compatikey.
She’s a Football/Pen…..and he’s a Basketball/Pen. It was their chemistry that was holding them together for 3 years. He had a ‘magnetic’ attraction to her, and their movement chemistry was ‘In Sync’. She actually had a ‘neutral/nice’ chemistry toward him… but I’m sure she found his attraction to her very seductive and exciting….especially since they were ‘in sync’ which makes her feel attracted to him too.
As I’ve said before, a Football/Pen women really needs to be with another Football/Pen. She really needs that stability and reliability. That’s a challenge for the Basketball Relationship Style, even if he is a Pen Plan Style. Basketballs are stimulating not stabilizing. Football men can be with a Basketball women easier, but he better have a high tolerance for the stress that can come with all the stimulation that a Basketball brings into their relationship.
Basketball Relationship Style: Dribbles the relationship ball and is stimulating in relationship
Football Relationship Style: Holds the relationship ball and is stabilizing in relationship
They both have a low tolerance for stress. I can imagine this relationship has been a real stress for both of them, especially her. You could put money on that she was “expecting” him to act like a Football/Pen. My guess is he even tried, but ultimately we are who we are.
There were more differences at the core of this relationship, than harmony. I wish them an easeful parting, but I think it’s going to get a lot messier.
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As I said back in July (see blog post) about this couple:
“I think this one has the potential for an enjoyable long term relationship!”
Looking thru the lens of Compatikey, they have a lot of hidden ingredients in common. They have the same Relationship Style (Basketball) and Plan Style (Pen) Their Chemistry is the same (level 1) and their movement chemistry is “in sync”. Plus their Inner Style is “smooth to moderatley mixed” giving them a nice friendship on top of everything else they’ve got going on here.”
They are still going strong….and now they are expecting a baby! Blessings you two!
They have more differences than similarities in the “hidden ingredients” looking at their Compatikey Relationship Map.
Relationship science says the more we have in common the higher the probability for a happy long term relationship, however, understanding these differences makes it much easier to work with the differences.
Ashton and Demi’s “hidden challenges” can be less challenging if they understood them better.
Ashton tweeted, he is “Asking 4 the energy 2 forge bonds with our similarities & find compromise in our differences.”
Some big differences are found in looking at the “hidden ingredients” that can be found through the Compatikey Relationship Mapping System.
The 3 main “differences” which can be very challenging, if they are not aware of them are as follows:
1. They have the opposite Plan Style. She is a Pen and he is a Pencil. (and that is commonly more challenging when the women is the pen and the man is the pencil)
2. Their “Movement Chemisty” is clumsy. Which can make not only movement together awkward, but also communication awkward. The do have a magnetic chemistry, which is the same.
3. Their “Inner Style” is “heavily mixed“. which means they see things in life quite differently. If you add the age difference here too…well….??
I was wondering how long this relationship was going to last.
If they would have been aware of the differences it would have been helpful. Especially one main difference was that she is the “Pen” Plan Style and he is the “Pencil” Plan Style. It was helpful they were the same relationship style, which is “Football”.
I find when a woman is a Pen and the man a Pencil, it’s more challenging than the other way around. She would have more expectations about the relationship than he would. In fact, the words expectation and dissapointment come freely out of a pens mouth….rare to hear that from a Pencil Plan Style person. Pencils are more “going with the flow” of things. My quess is she just couldn’t work with that any longer. Besides their Chemistry was a level 1 and the movement Chemistry was awakward or clumbsy.
The core of this relationship was friendship, which I would guess that will remain or return after the hurt goes away.
Blessings you two!
I was wondering how long this was going to last.
Ashton and Demi’s “hidden challenges” can be less challenging if they understood them better.
I was wondering how long this relationship was going to last.