Relationship Tip from John Gray

When a man simply listens and accepts a woman's feelings instead of objecting to them or trying to convince her to feel another way, she feels loved by him. He is validating her feelings and confirming her right to feel the way she does. It's important to remember that he doesn't need to have the same point of view to validate her feelings or point of view. When a man learns how to validate a woman's feelings - even when he disagrees with those feelings - he is more likely to receive the approval that he primarily needs... Every man wants to be his woman's hero and gain her approval. A woman's approving attitude looks for the good reasons behind what he does and conveys a feeling of Read more [...]

Transformational Hypnosis Available!

Easily accessing the most powerful part of your mind to free you from unwanted behaviors..... & create inner peace. This can be done in conjunction with a massage or by itself. FAQ about Hypnosis: Q. Why do hypnosis? A. Because it's the easiest & quickest way to let go of specific unwanted habits & behaviors. Q. Will I ever do or say anything that I don't want to do? A. No. You are always in control. If you've see people being hypnotized on stage, that's entertainment hypnosis, it's different from therapeutic hypnosis. People are purposely picked who want to get on stage and & basically  have permission to do to be silly & entertain people. Q. Will Read more [...]

Book List for Personal & Relational Peace

Just thought I’d give you a few books to explore to help you with some deeper understanding for inner & relational peace.

By John Gray:

Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus

Mars and Venus Together Forever

Venus on Fire, Mars on Ice

By Dr. Louann Brizendine:

The Female Brain

The Male Brain

Shari Klein & Neill Gibson:

What’s Making you Angry? 10 Steps to Transforming Anger So Everyone Wins

Miles Sherts:

Conscious Communication

Jennifer Louden:

A Couples Retreat Book

A Women’s Retreat Book

Melody Beattie

Gratitude

Gerald Jamplowsky

Love is Letting Go of Fear

Thich Nhat Hanh:

The Heart of Understanding

 

8 Mistakes Men & Women Make in Arguments

Relationship Expert, John Gray share's these tips about how to avoid fights in your relationship: 8 mistakes MEN make in an argument 1. Aggressive tone or loud voice Men can care so much about being right that they don't realize that they often sound threatening and overwhelming. 2. Condescending comments Phrases like, "Don't worry about it." or "It's not a big deal." are big mistakes because it does not acknowledge her feelings. 3. Interrupting her with arguments that invalidate her feelings or correct her observations A typical comment would be "You shouldn't feel that way." Instead of taking time to reflect and saying something like, "I understand you think that..." 4. Read more [...]

Masculine/Feminine Stress

Masculine energy: likes to achieve rather than experience Feminine energy: likes to experience rather than achieve. Masculine energy is more about action: doing, thinking, decision making, logistics, analyzing, figuring out, planning, solving, leading. Feminine energy is more about feeling: expressing, intuiting, just being, receiving, following. Note: We all have these energies; we use them at different times in our lives. Depending on the amounts of estrogen and testosterone in our bodies, we will be most comfortable in either the masculine mode or the feminine mode most often. Women who have been trained to succeed in business (masculine) will have to use masculine energy Read more [...]

Climate of Trust

According to John Gottman from his 40 years of research with couples, creating a “Climate of Trust” is key to satisfying & long lasting relationships.

We all need help with this, however, since we only speak our “hormonal/gender specific language”, because that’s what comes most natural to us.

The beginning of creating a “Climate of Trust”  is understanding the differences that create conflict. It’s through this understanding we can have compassion, acceptance and openness to learn skills on how to listen & communicate across the hormonal/gender differences so we can have a “Climate of Trust” in which we and our relationships can flourish! 🙂

Frustrated in relationship?

There is a post going around on Facebook, called "An Open Letter To Men From Sexy Consciously Awake Women". I think the woman who wrote it and the many who share it, have a deep desire to be loved, adored & appreciated. What they clearly don't know yet is the differences between the "masculine & the feminine" person, and how to get their needs met by understanding these important differences. Generally, and not the rule, the "masculine" person is male and the "feminine" person is the female. What makes a masculine person masculine is the amount of testosterone they have in their body, and what makes the feminine person feminine is the amount of estrogen they have in their body. A Read more [...]

Making Relationships Work through Understanding

Don't throw the baby out with the bath water!The "baby" I speak of is the Relationship! Don"t get rid of a man because he's not a women! This is what women unconsciously do! (Men for that matter too.) Relationships generally end because we don't realize the gender and energetic differences that create conflict in our relationships, so we expect the other person to act and respond the same way we do or would. I hear from women "I keep picking unavailable men." For the most part they are saying they aren't available to do relationship the same way they do. Men generally aren't available for (too long if at all): communication about emotions or intuition (this is something unique Read more [...]

Needs & Solutions for Personal & Relational Peace

  We are all trying to get our needs met as well as help meet others needs around us, as best we can. Often we are doing this without much clarity of what ours or others needs are or what the best solutions are to meet those needs, which translates, generally,  into messy solutions or win/lose solutions to get needs met. This can be a confusing process given gender difference in how we listen & communicate, along with other potential differences. Understanding & Clarity is key to personal & relational peace. "When one person wins, the relationship looses". I help people find win/win, so the relationship can be a source of strength and joy for both parties. Check Read more [...]

Practice Peace

Here is a simple yet profound exercise to "Practice Peace" so you can be more peaceful & open to enjoying your life in any moment you desire. From this place of peace you can be proactive in getting your needs met, rather than reactive thus creating conflict within yourself and in your life. This exercise can be done wherever you are, doing whatever you are doing. Especially if you are upset, sad, angry, frustrated, thinking negative thoughts about anything or anyone. It"s meditation in motion! Practicing Peace exercise: Bringing your attention to your breath.... Take slow full deep breaths....deep into your belly.....filling up the sides of your lungs.....then a relaxed out Read more [...]