To have more peace and love in any relationship, it’s important that men and women understand that we think, feel and communicate differently. We can also have ”invisible differences”, that are at the core of a lot of the conflict in relationships. I show people these invisible differences using The Compatikey Relationship Mapping System®.
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Whether you are single looking to date more successfully or have conflict in any relationship these understandings will impact all areas of your life in an extraordinary way!
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1. For women to know: He's not a woman! So... he can't listen or talk like one.
If you want a man to listen to you, you'll need to let him know it would make you feel better if he "just listen" and that you don’t need him to figure anything out for you or to try to help “fix” anything. (this is how men listen, because that’s what comes natural to them)
Empathy doesn’t come natural for a man. Empathy comes natural for most women because of the way their brain is wired.
Be sure to let him know the "short time limit" that you need from him. Men need to know this....because they are limited as to how long they can "act like they have a female brain".
Be sure to express Read more [...]
It's been said by many Relationship experts that appreciation is a vital ingredient in your relationships. They also say love and appreciation go hand in hand.
Gary Chapman wrote a book called The 5 Love Languages. He discovered there are different ways people feel loved (and appreciated).
Take the quiz below to find out how you and your partner feel love/appreciated!
Be sure to let others know, so they can show you that you are loved! :)
The 5 Love Languages®
What if you could say or do just the right thing guaranteed to make that special someone feel loved?
The secret is learning the right love language! Millions of couples have learned the simple way to express Read more [...]
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Neurogentic research shows that male and female brains are wired differently, which validates and sheds light on a lot of the conflict we can have in relating with the opposite sex.
My relationship advice is to understand the different preferences our brains have us wired for.
By understanding these differences we can have acceptance and hopefully a sense of humor, when we expect the opposite sex to value or prefer things in the same way we would.
When it's stated below that "male brains prefer", they mean people who have more testosterone in their bodies than estrogen. (Which is about 80% men)
When it's stated below that "female brains prefer", they mean people who have Read more [...]
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Understanding is the key to minimizing relationship problems
One of the biggest relationship problems I hear about, especially from women, is how frustrating and challenging it is to communicate with their partner!
We naturally think because we are taking to another human being that we would be speaking the same language, especially if you both are from the same country. That assumption and expectation is the beginning of the problem, if you are trying to communicate with the opposite sex!
Fortunately there has been a lot of research on gender differences as well as gender communication style differences, that gives us understanding, so we can hopefully develop compassion and acceptance Read more [...]
"Men and women each have six unique love needs that are equally important. You can better understand the needs of your partner by better understanding each of these kinds of love.
Men primarily need trust, acceptance, appreciation, admiration, approval, and encouragement.
Women primarily need caring, understanding, respect, devotion, validation, and reassurance.
Certainly every man and woman need all twelve kinds of love.
A man becomes fully receptive to and appreciative of the six kinds of love primarily needed by women when his own primary love needs are fulfilled.
Likewise a woman needs her primary love needs fulfilled before she can begin to truly value a man's six primary Read more [...]
No Surprise to me.
I was wondering how long this would last, given the "invisible differences"! Not to metion, how controlling I hear he is. I do know, according to The Compatikey Relationship Mapping System, that his "Stress Tolerance" is low. When someone has this, it's crutial they find healthy ways of dealing with stress, otherwise they take it out on others with anger and controlling behavior.
Most people don't realize it takes effort from both people to maintain a healthy relationship, but with some opposite key styles and not being aware of them, it's close to impossible to stay together in a healthy manner.
Here's further understanding of the Katie and Tom's invisible differences, Read more [...]
It’s no wonder men and women can have a hard time understanding each other in conversation!
Deborah Tannen points out in her book, “You Just Don’t Understand”:
Men are often inclined to focus on jockeying for status in conversation: Is the other person trying to one-up me or put me down? Is the other trying to establish a dominant position?
Women are more often attuned to the negotiation of connections: Is the other person trying to get closer or pull away?
Since both elements are present, it’s easy for women and men to focus in different elements in the same conversation”.
John Gray says, "Women show their love by doing a lot of little things all the time for their partner, thinking this will make him feel loved because that’s how she feels loved. Her brain is set up to be able to focus on a lot of little things at a time and not on just on big thing.
A man does one or two big things for his partner thinking that will make her feel loved. His brain is set up to focus on one big thing at a time.
Men and women need to understand and accept their differences in order to love and be loved.
Imagine women have a love tank similar to a gas tank in a car. It needs to be filled over and over again. Doing many little things (and scoring many points) is the secret Read more [...]